孩子在幼儿园被欺负,你猜哈尔滨家长都咋办?
2015/4/4 生活报
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手心捧着,心里疼着的娃进了幼儿园,就相当于一脚踏进了社会,难免小朋友之间磕磕碰碰,可能出现挨打的情况
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具体情况导致孩子们的行为表现各有不同
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很委屈:"为什么这么对我?"
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惊讶:"什么情况?"
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不屑:“就这点小力气,还来打我,哼哼"
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号啕:“好疼啊,老师你快去打他”
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愤怒滴,孩砸,有些不雅噢
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而爸爸妈妈为了这种事也是拼了!
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吵吵把火型家长:
台词:“这谁家孩砸,怎么能打人呢!”
应对:教宝宝以牙还牙:“来!让爸爸跟你先练习练习。你先给爸爸一拳?我给你一拳,你还我一拳;我踢你一脚,你再还我一脚……”拳来脚往,陪练了个把月…
小编心声:孩子会认为这样的处理方法是最正确的,有可能也成为具有攻击性的宝宝。不过,对于那些生性比较安静的宝宝,再怎么教也是教不会的哟。
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难过型家长:
台词:“我儿砸在家都没挨过一个手指头打…”
应对:教宝宝不和打人的宝宝玩
小编心声:在宝宝的成长过程中,会遇到各种各样的事、各种各样的人,如果仅仅因为这个人不好惹,就不和他玩,这其实使孩子失去了很多,变得懦弱。因为在发生争执的过程中,他们也是在经历、在尝试、在体验,孩子间会通过这些逐渐学会处理自己的事情,要相信孩子能在多次的交往冲突中长大、提高。
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讲道理型家长:
台词:“打人是不对的,你挨打也是不对的,老师没看管好也是不对的…”
应对:家长介入,帮助处理
小编心声:家长亲自出面,会给孩子造成了心理压力。给孩子的潜台词就是"我不行,我是无力的,我要依靠别人来解决"。
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转移型家长:
台词:“儿砸别哭了,我给你买好吃的去…快看,这画真漂亮啊…”
应对:找各种情况转移孩子注意力
小编心声:哭闹会停止,但遗留的情绪不会转移,如果一直没得疏通解决,以后小宝宝会莫名情绪化,变得不可理解的哟。
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当孩子们发生冲突时,情绪像小火山一样瞬间爆发,同时也引炸了家长们自己内心的火山
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一味地发火、说教、转移等并不能帮助到孩子,家长要做到自己先冷静下来,才能更有效地关注到孩子。允许孩子表露情绪,直到他平静下来,对孩子是很有益的,你对他的关怀会成为这个世界中充满活力的一部分,在他情绪最糟时你仍对他关切,他会深深地体会到你对他的爱和关心,这种力量会成为孩子的一部分,他有勇气和智慧重新注意周围的情况,踏上自我成长之路!
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那如果孩子以后再碰上类似情况,当时应该怎么做?
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在幼儿园时期,孩子的攻击行为基本上是非故意的,是天性导致,互相争抢玩具,互相推搡、摔跤。也有的幼儿园有个别“坏孩子”会故意打人,故意伤害别人。我们要让自己的娃娃学习采用“斥责、制止和躲避”的方法应对:
简单来说,是这样滴:
第一步,后退三步;
第二步,指着对方大声说:“不许打人!”
第三步,跑开。好汉不吃眼前亏。三十六计,走为上。
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儿童的世界其实非常单纯,很多所谓的问题,其实是成年人强加的,其中比较典型的就是把孩子间的冲突关系看成是“犯错误”,尤其是看成欺负和被欺负的关系。家长可以给孩子传达一个信息,即发生冲突是件很正常的事。这样一种心理的建立非常重要,是儿童能正常发展人际关系必不可少的基础。
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